(Written by Sir Article, Founder and CEO of Sircle Communications)
I have no fears; I only have concerns. They are two different things, to me.
My 3 biggest concerns in life are: ending up in Hell, failing to achieve my vision in life before I die, and getting divorced in future.
No other issues bother me more than those three.
Oh, yes, I have been unable to sell copies of my motivational book — "Control Your Own Destiny" — after 1 year of constant bragging (my critics believe)!
Sometimes, I sincerely feel there is a possibility that my book would never get sold in the short-term. From my candid observations, I perceive that my naysayers are already thinking the failure of my book project is imminent.
However, I do not fear failing in my book project; I am rather slightly concerned about its possible failure.
Alright, I am not afraid of going to Hell, not achieving my vision in life before I die, and getting divorced in future — they are all concerns, and not fears.
***Concern 1: Ending up in Hell***
Firstly, I am extremely concerned about dying and ending up in Hell, simply because I did not live holy as a believer on Earth.
I believe, not only in Heaven like most people, but also in Hell. And, I dare say, only a fool does not believe in the existence of Hell.
It is believed that about 100 billion people have died in human history — and you could easily tell the percentage now in Hell!
Well, my daily life displeases Christ, I know. Frankly speaking, I do not the Will of God the Father. I live sinfully every day, to tell the truth.
In fact, I am born again, I have been to church many times, read two-thirds of the Bible, prayed in tongues, preached the Gospel before, and done other religious stuff.
But if I die today, I would go to Hell because I do not live righteously as the righteousness of God in Christ. I cannot deceive myself and you by lying about this stark reality!
Going to Heaven as a so-called Christian is never about religiosity, or rights and privileges believers enjoy by Grace through faith; it is entirely about holy living in Christ.
No wonder the Bible says in Hebrews 12:14 (NIV), "Make every effort to live in peace with everyone, and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord."
Interestingly, it seems quite simple — though not easy — to live a holy life as a Christian. The formula is found in the Scriptures, but I find it difficult to follow.
***Concern 2: Failing to Achieve My Vision in Life before I Die***
Note that I never said "failing in life." For I have failed a couple of times in my 21 years of life. They were minor and major failures, or small and great failures.
I failed in my first business — an online advertising business, actually — in 2015. Hey, I even want to fail more as I advance in business and entrepreneurship!
Moreover, I am overly concerned about failing to achieve my vision, not within the 3 decades I have targeted, but before I pass on.
What if I die tomorrow, next month, the following year, or in the next 10 years? Would I have achieved my vision in life, which is "to emerge as a rare titan in the world of writing"?
"...I am convinced in heart and soul that I was born to write, and to profitably change the world with it," I wrote in my book 'Control Your Own Destiny'.
That is what my purpose in life, which helped me create my vision in life, is simply all about.
I always pray that I would have completely accomplished that unthinkable vision on my deathbed at any age — be it 60, 70, 80 years.
***Concern 3: Getting Divorced in Future***
I know folks would be surprised to see this — that at age 20, I am so concerned about getting divorced in future.
Besides, only my family relatives could understand why it is obviously my third biggest concern in life.
And if you are truly discerning, you should understand why (I made the preceding statement) already.
I hate divorce with passion although it looks normal to a lot of people. You know why? Divorce is a spirit of failure, defeat, abortion, collapse, wreck, and loss!
Tracy Letts said, "Divorce is an embarrassing public admission of defeat."
Sia F. Dean stated that, "Divorce is a failed challenge, which leads to a broken life. It is a socially transmittable disease that can transfer from one generation to another, and it is spreading fast."
That is why I am greatly preparing for marriage even as a young boy now. I am also trying to learn the skills of a husband — a good one, of course.
I have been reading some insightful books on marriage, where I learned crucial things about a successful marriage.
Ha-ha, I occasionally ask my mom about the challenges and secrets of marriage, and she usually says I am too young to ask and know now.
God bless my sweet mother though, who frequently prays about the future marriages of her children, that they would last until death and in bliss.
Also, I have planned to start discussing matters of marriage frequently with my girlfriend even if she feels we are getting ahead of ourselves.
Lastly, my wife and I would have to work extra hard and wisely to make our marriage divorce-free no matter the problems we shall face, in order to glorify God.