(Written by Sir Article, Founder and CEO of Sircle Communications)
This article would actually defy feminism and gender equality. These ideologies have deluded women into ridiculously believing that they are equal with men, even in marriage.
Okay, I am just 20 years old, and not planning to marry soon. So why would I make a fuss over the title of this piece? It seems unusual, I know.
Well, I totally agree with a thought-provoking assertion Counsellor Lutterodt once made: "Divorce is not caused by what happens during marriage, but rather what happens before marriage or the pre-marital relationship."
That is why I deem it crucial to ask young girls in relationships about their preparations — attitudinal preparation, especially — towards marriage. For example, submission to husbands as wives.
Interestingly, my girlfriend did something quite disrespectful few days ago which prompted me to ponder over the theme of this write-up — and also to write about it.
I had a very trivial issue with my babe during a phone call, and she abruptly cut the call apparently in anger.
I then texted her to quickly call me back because her action was uncalled for, but she boldly texted back, "I won't call you; what will you do?" And she did not answer my calls after that.
Many boyfriends would overlook that attitude, thinking it is normal and "a girl's thing."
But, you see, a girl who marries with such non-submissive behaviour (like her) would hardly submit herself to her husband in most instances. And, surely, marital problems would follow!
I might have offended her, but she still had to submit to my instruction — it is a marriageable duty according to Scriptures. If she thought that was too unrealistic, then she is not ready to be a (good) wife.
Besides, I had a marriage-based conversation with my mom few weeks ago. I wanted to understand a wife's submission to her husband.
I asked, "Mom, in marriage, what if I ask my wife do something, and she deliberately refuses to obey?"
She responded, "Kweku, your wife would have to comply with that instruction no matter what. It's her moral obligation as your wife. If she doesn't, you'd have to painfully ignore that and do it yourself. It'd prevent problems and even divorce."
Also, my mom, a nursery school teacher, told me a profound story of a married female friend in her school who came to work very late one day, simply because that woman prepared breakfast for her husband late that morning.
Her husband asked her to prepare a wheat meal for him around 7:40AM when she was already late for work, after failing to tell her the previous night, or at dawn — how annoying!
She knew she could not disobey her husband as a good wife although her reason would have been sensibly justified. But she obeyed her husband without dissenting, and made it to her workplace very late that day.
That is a perfect description of a wife's submission to her husband! No need for a lexical meaning!
Sadly, many wives — including my girlfriend, if she was my wife — would have disrespected their husbands and gone to work, to be frank.
No wonder the Bible says that wives should submit themselves to their husbands as they submit themselves to the Lord.
The husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church. That means that a wife must respect her husband's authority and obey his commands just as she would respect Christ and obey His commandments.
Yes, if she does that, she would always experience the God-kind of love from her husband.
However, wives are divinely permitted not to be submissive to their husbands in sinful cases such abortion, fraud, idolatry, slander etc.
Everything else is permissible; it only requires the fear of God and a modicum of common sense to know when to be submissive to your husband and when to be non-submissive to your husband.